Monday, November 01, 2004

Why Do Parents Over-indulge?

This book has invaluable resource to nurturing cooperation, good character, and positive life skills in children. You'll learn how to:

-Avoid power struggles with your children
-Maintain schedules, plan meals, and reduce stress through effective time management
-Learn the power of family meetings in tackling discipline and developmental problems
-Help those who care for your children understand the important philosophy of kindness and firmness in setting boundaries

Busy parents shower their love for kids by spending excessive amount decorating kids room with all modern facilities and buying expensive gifts. With both working parents competing with each other in hiking their career graphs, each tries to beat the other in appeasing the neglected child by providing wrong signals. They do not realise that more than the material goods, what the child needs is emotional security, which the parents have no time for. Parents go overboard exhibiting their parental instincts of their own interest and the same child actually resent this over indulgence as over the years. They grow to regard this as interference. What I think is that it is neither indulgence nor interference but involvement that the child needs most. According to Daniel Goleman, childhood is
"a special window of opportunity for shaping children's emotional habits." We must help children recognize and understand their emotions and the emotions of others. For this kids need time, love, attention, a sense of belonging, structure, and for the adults to model humane, honest behavior, Listening and communicating skills.

Pause, think - shower love with gifts but spend value time with kids as no amount of expenses incurred can compensate for parental love, afterall!

-Blossomsmile ilaxi
Editor, Kidsfreesouls

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